When The Past Comes to Attack You- What To Do
I remember the days when I woke up and it was a new day filled with abundance, opportunity, and peace. I never thought about the past or had any regrets. My attitude was optimistic and my feelings toward life and others was positive. I was able to move throughout my day with joy and gratitude for the life I had.
This all changed when I met someone who changed my life. I thought it was from God and began rejoicing as to having my prayers answered and I thought I finally understood why I had to wait so long. Long story short, it didn’t work out. Third Parties, lying, mediocre communication, timing, and insecurity led to something potentially beautiful into something of the opposite.
It was confusion. I’ve learned that what I thought was from God was actually from the opposite spirit. Jezabel spirit.
It brought my trauma and pain for years. Sometimes, when extreme pain and resentment come up from things that happened years ago, we want to send a mean message standing up for ourselves, we want to escape the pain and hurt ourselves through alcohol and other temptations.
This will take your mind off of the pain temporarily, however, it will only make things worse as the pain will come back multiplied once the instant gratification leaves you, then you just want to jump to the next instant gratification to escape the pain again.
SO, What do you do when resentment, betrayal, injustice, and angry and sad thoughts come to attack you from the past?
You need tell yourself (even if you don’t believe it) that you forgive yourself, you forgive them, and God forgives you. Matthew 6:14-15: For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Sin means to Miss the Mark.
Other than this, what do we do? What have I done?
Move your body
Go to the gym and push yourself. Make a friend and have a conversation about fitness. Force yourself to workout and feel the pain of breaking down your muscles and embrace it.
Take a Cold Shower
If you can’t jump in right away no worries. Make your shower hot and comfortable, then turn the water all the way to cold and feel the pain and uncomfortability as the freezing water runs down your body. Take Deep breaths, scream If you have to. Embrace the pain. Keep the water running until you don’t feel the cold of the water anymore.
Drink something healthy
Go buy something nutritious to drink to make you feel good. I enjoy Green Drinks filled with Vegetables, Vitamins, and other nutrients to pick yourself up. Do some research and find some drinks that work for you such as motcha (green tea powder)
Sit in silence
We need to sit in silence when the pain comes also. Feel the pain running through your body and acknowledge what you’re feeling and don’t try and fight it. This is now we heal. By allowing ourselves to feel what we feel without trying to escape it. In this time you will often have more introspection, forgiveness, and clarity about the situation. It will hurt, but you don’t have another choice if you want to heal.
Call a friend or family member
Sometimes we just need to talk to someone who we love, trust, and respect. Pick up the phone and make a call for someone to listen to you and let you vent about what you’re feeling. This is important and allows us to express what we are truly feeling knowing someone else is listening. We don’t want to isolate ourselves, we need to be understood by someone we trust so you can move forward knowing someone cares.
If you’re struggling with things from the past, try some of these steps and i’m positive they will help you. It’s not easy, but you will heal and you will overcome what once brought you pain.